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ProfessorCrownGuanaco16Respond to this discussion thread, referring to this intext…Respond to this discussion thread, referring to this intext reference and biblical text relating to the topic.  REFERENCEHart, A. (1997). Helping children survive divorce: What to expect; how to help (Revised and Updated ed.). Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson. ISBN: 9780849939495. Divorce is something that unfortunately is extremely common and the causes of it stretch across the board. Some people merely fall out of love; this could be due to the fact that they have grown individually and the alignment is now off between the two partners. In other situations, it can be a bit more complicated though. Infidelity, for example, is the leading cause of divorce. Overall, divorce has been around for so long that it is mentioned in the Bible numerous times.Most children experience divorce when they are younger; some are so young that they do not even remember the divorce taking place. In addition, children handle divorce in different ways. For me personally, my parents divorced after I was already away at college. My younger brother was still in high school and living at home, so I know our experiences were completely different from each other. I can tell that my brother and father have a more strained relationship than the two of us do, and I know deep down that it is because of how my brother handled the divorce. Although it was a heartbreaking event, I know that it was for the best. My mother deserved to be with someone who looked at her like she was the only woman in the world, and my father stopped doing that almost 21 years into their marriage. They also got married very young, and I do believe that people grow as individuals throughout their entire lives, and some people simply grow into different people that may no longer be compatible with each other.Regardless of how the divorce effects the children, Hart (1997) explains six different ways that parents can help deal with resiliency during the family-altering event. First, do not be afraid to be honest with your children. Next, communicate with your child. Third, give liberal explanations but not defensive excuses. Fourth is to allow time for processing. Fifth is giving children the freedom of choice, and lastly parents must build the child’s security. I believe that while my father struggled a bit with these ideas that Hart (1997) explained, my mother did an amazing job at doing her part. She always made sure to be communicating with my brother and I very honestly. She was accountable for the things that she did wrong in the marriage, and allowed my brother and I the time to process everything and make decisions for ourselves. I know that while it would have been better to have both parents involved in the process of involving the children in the divorce, because inevitably we were going to be involved, I am very thankful that at least one of them treated us fairly and lovingly throughout everything.Social SciencePsychology